DCGrandma wrote:It is difficult if not impossible to squirrel away any funds whatsoever while we are experiencing an economy that is in the toilet!! I used to be able to save between $40-$60 per week for our summer vacations which include a week's stay at a resort in northern Minnesota. We cannot afford this vacation any more, and our kids would not even be coming along - they are all adults. Gas is way too expensive to drive there not to mention the gas needed for the boat motor. Those vacations were a wonderful time for our entire family - the kids loved the outdoors, swimming every day, meeting old friends and making new ones, too. Our meals were simple and we often ate at nearby restaurants. It was great family time!! These vacations were taken at a time when all of children were young and we made less money than we do today. It is unfortunate that our economy will prevent families from enjoying these vacations, but they will have to be satisfied with family time and activities close to home. Perhaps neighborhood picnics may suffice. But the fact of the matter is there is just not enough $$ to go around.
Try not to be bitter. Economic conditions go up and go down. Be thankful that you were able to take regular vacations with your family, even if one may not be possible now. My family (when I was a child) took a vacation together every year (even twice in some years). Now, with a family of my own, my wife and I have realized that we've only had one vacation in the past seven years, and that one vacation was likely one of only two during our fifteen years of marriage. I'm not writing to complain--far from it! I'm writing to say I'm thankful for what we have had during that time: each other, and wonderful children. Sure, we may not be able to get away to a lake cabin, or to many of the wonderful road trips many have enjoyed (and we can't even dream of going to Disneyland--Valley Fair is enough of a challenge once every few years), but we have each other and find ways to enjoy our time together. I still take off a week of vacation when I can, but it is usually spent close to home (if not going along on a church or scout trip). We fill our 'vacation time' with activities like hiking, fishing, biking, camping (not far from home), movie nights, picnics, game nights, and days filled with nothing at all.
The point I'm trying to make is that we should be thankful for what we have today, even if it is less than what we've had before, or less than that which our neighbors seem to have. A wise man once told me and my wife that he could always tell how much money we would have. We didn't believe him. His answer got us thinking about our money differently. He said, "You'll always have 100% of your money. How you spend it is up to you." We've tried to take that to heart (though we've not always done as well as we should). We've made a lot of trade-offs, like not taking those vacations, to fund the things that we've felt were more important (like enabling my wife to stay at home with our kids). I know many are in such tough straits that just about every dime is allocated to someone else, but this wise man, who was a financial counselor, also told us that we would have to bite the bullet sometime: that we would need to let some things be late and that we would need to accept the consequences of being late because (at the time) our income was such that we could not keep up with everything. Even though we had very little, he still had us budget a small amount (I think it started at $5 every two weeks) for entertainment. With only $5, that kept our entertainment budget to a rented movie and a snack, or maybe a couple of Dilly Bars at a Dairy Queen. It took a long time before our cirucumstances changed, but we've tried to remember those bits of wisdom he shared with us. Even though we had a very bad year through 2007, we still kept some money in the budget for fun and entertainment. Our counselor knew that, if we did not allow some funds for entertainment spending, we would likely stick to our budget for a while but then give in to our desires and end up messing up our budget.
[Thank you, Ken Smith! You really helped us in a tough time, and you gave us guidance we still lean upon to this day.]